Children are not born with good or bad personalities. They’re raised and nurtured in a certain way that eventually reflects in their behavior towards others.
When it comes to children who have been raised by toxic parents or in a toxic family, they may grow up with a distinct character or personality. There are certain behavioral traits, streaks that may or may not necessarily depict them as good or bad but may reflect the toxic environment they have been raised in.
That said, here are the types of kids raised by toxic parents or families.
The disruptive, troubled kid
With toxic parents around, the most common outcome is a toxic, troubled kid, who loses track of his/her aims and ambitions and chooses to misbehave. Most kids who belong to this category are disruptive, aggressive, and defensive. They do not like to listen, do not place any trust in anyone, and most probably will not be trustworthy themselves. While they may seem rough and strong, but they’re emotionally very delicate, which is why they create this layer around themselves to keep themselves protected. Such kids need special attention and instead of being lectured and criticized, they secretly wish to be heard and appreciated.
The mature, responsible child
Kids who grow up with toxic parents don’t always turn out to be troublemakers. A toxic parent does not necessarily mean someone who is negligent or distant. It also indicates parents who are too critical of their kids, a pushover. Because they’re highly critical, lack the ability to maintain boundaries, never satisfied with their child’s performance, their children grow up to be competitive and too mature for their age. They start becoming responsible at an early age and due to the fear of being condemned, they try and do their best at everything.
The silent spectator, one who is often called a “good kid”
Sometimes, children of assertive, opinionated parents, who lack the ability to listen, may become lost and silent. They prefer staying alone, almost invisible, for the fear of being picked on by their parents or family. There’ll hardly be a time when they get into trouble. They do not indulge in their family crisis, however learn to cope with the struggles on their own. Not the best at communicating their feelings, they’re more creative, almost like a dreamer. Such kids are often applauded for being good listeners, well-mannered, and less rebellious.
The fun, but the insecure kid
Children can be extremely fun. But even those who have toxic parents can sometimes come in high spirits. The only difference is that they’ll be a bit insecure and doubtful of themselves. Most kids who fall under this group of kids are best at hiding their true emotions. Even when they’re experiencing a lot of pressure and stress at home, they’ll try and break that tension by cracking jokes, being witty. However inside, there’s a storm that’s messing with their mind. These sets of kids are over-nice to people and find it hard to share their difficulties with others. Instead, they put on a mask of laughter and a smile.
The actor or the enabler
Children who have parents who are toxic in the sense that they’re addicts or alcoholics or have an unhealthy lifestyle are pretentious. They pretend that everything is fine on their end. They try and build a narrative that is completely opposite to their reality, something that they wish they’d have but do not. They showcase a well-to-do family that is supportive, loving, and caring, but deep inside everything is actually falling apart. Such kids need people who can understand them and hear their pleas, even when words aren’t spoken out loud.
A toxic parent and a family may not find themselves at fault, but somehow, over time, it’ll have a serious impact on the child’s mind.