Kids can seem blissful to the age of 11 or 12 years, but once they land into their teen years, problems may start appearing because this is the age when they begin developing maturity or seek as most space as possible. Teenage is one phase of life where your child learns a lot, fails a lot, and develops a lot.
In the teenage phase of your child, there might be something that might not be reasonable to you and some points which might not be reasonable to them. Because of this, you might feel that you lose a lot because of the generation gap or parenting pressure, and thus miscommunication happens, which results in battles or fights.
Teenage is described as one of the times when your kids need the most attention from your end but demand space. However, there are basic ways to adapt while handling or parenting your adolescent kid to balance this and avoid battles with your teenage kid.
These ways are fundamental and may work with most teenage kids:-
Stop victimizing yourself
Stop thinking that your child is your enemy or that they are bound to understand what you are saying or explaining to them. Not every time do you need to win the argument or cross-correct your child. In arguments, also you need to maintain calm rather than continue it. From two people arguing, one has to be calm, and you can be that person if your kid does not understand.
Don’t parade around your kids
If you want to avoid battles, stay out of your teen kid’s way and stop checking on them now and then. Trusting them can go a long way. Please don’t argue with them on every mistake they make; you can let them handle the problems they are into. Dictating and parading around them might suffocate your kid, leading to a battle between you both.
Let them explain their opinions
Teenage is an age when your kid has tons of views, different mindsets which may or may not be influenced. So ask your kid why they have an opinion or feel in a certain way. You need to understand them if you want them to understand you.
Realize the actual reason for the battle
If your kid argued with you on any matter rather than focusing on the way your kid argued, you could focus on the reason which led them to argue with you. Identify the cause and solve it.
Same teams
You always need to remember that you and your teenager are on the same team. You both stay in the same house and have to live together. So you all can find common grounds, thus leading to peace.
These are some of the ways to help you reduce battles and even stop them. To summarize, we can say that it is not necessary to engage in an argument; sometimes, you can let it slide. When your child enters the teen era, you can establish specific ground rules such as letting them know that they might have arguments in the future but at end of the day, you all need to work things out and solve the issues. This might help them think logically during battle or even stop them from having one. In the end, you need to remember that teenagers is just a phase of their life, and by the time they are 17 or 18, the battle will themselves stop.