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Childhood is the most beautiful phase in every individual’s life, and when you nurture a kid you need to understand that it’s their growing phase, they will make mistakes, they will be immature, and they won’t listen to stuff. But as parents/a parents, you have to understand that what you shouldn’t say to them when they do so. Unfortunately, most of the parents/parents out there make mistakes and say things that impact their children.
Through this post, we will be talking about specific phrases that you should stop saying to your kids. The list includes some, but it will overall give you an idea of what you should say and whatnot.
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“You have performed well, but really you could do better.”
Most parents generally feel that complimenting their children would make them proud. If you are praising, please do it generously. Whenever you are using the word “but”, your compliment is actually of no meaning. Most children on hearing such phrases feel that maybe their victory or whatever they tried was not much of worth, thereby making them sad. So instead of saying this try saying “You really did well today and made me so proud, you are definitely getting better day by day”. This will not only motivate them, but they will feel content with whatever they tried.
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“Come on, hurry up!”
This is a phrase that most of you use whether your child is getting ready or finishing their food. These types of words create quite a stress for them; they start feeling anxious and end up getting panicked. The last thing you would want is your children getting panicked. So, tone down yourself. Say lovingly “Let’s hurry” which will make them feel that both of you are a team. You can also get ready or eat with them and organize some games as to who can do it the fastest. This is really a cheerful and funny way.
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“I am very disappointed with you.”
See as an adult, too; there are specific phrases that make us feel worse. This list includes the word “disappointed”. Imagine if you are using such terms with a kid, the impact it will create. They instantly start doubting themselves and feel they are a burden to you. So instead of saying this, if they have done something wrong or a mistake, try saying “I am not quite happy about your actions, please be careful and try to avoid such things”. This would make them realize that they do have committed a mistake, thereby refraining from doing this in the future.
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“Don’t ever talk with strangers.”
In the world of kids, the term “stranger” has a very different meaning than what we as adults perceive it. They may not understand what exactly you mean. So, if a person with a wrong motive is actually nice to him/her, he/she may not consider him a stranger. Similarly, by this phrase, they may even refuse help from police officers or hospital nurses. Instead of dictating such stuff, you should try and explain the situation to them. Put a hypothetical case in front of them that what if a stranger offers them to ride them home or take them to a park. Ask them what they would do and then explain how it is not the right way and explain to them what they should do in such circumstances. So, you could say “If someone makes you feel bad, scared, or uncomfortable in any way, you should never hesitate to tell me right away”.
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“I really want you to be like her/him.”
If you are comparing your child to somebody else be it a sibling or anyone else, that’s wrong then and there. This creates a very negative impact on your child. Your children are special in their own unique ways, and they don’t need to be like somebody else. If you want to encourage something, persuade them to do it. The comparison makes them feel they are not good enough, thereby creating self-doubt in their minds from the very beginning.
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“Stop cribbing and being a baby.”
Most parents say such phrases in order to make their children matured. Well, it’s the wrong way. When you say such stuff, it makes them feel as if they are doing something wrong, sharing their emotions. They try questioning themselves, “are my feelings not at all worthy?”. Always try to assure them that they can always be comfortable with you and never have to hesitate about anything. So, you can frame and say “What has happened and why are you feeling so?”
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Summing up
These are some phrases that you should definitely stop saying. It would be ideal that instead of commanding them, try and persuade your child about things. You should try and explain to them where they are going wrong and help them correct it.
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